Motivational Interviewing to Inspiration ey?

I was recently at a 2 day training for Motivational Interviewing. An activity was for us to pick people who inspire us and the reasons why. I have heard about this whole concept before.. but it sounded cheesy and I never actually took the time to think about it. I stared at the blank sheet and had no idea what to write. I had certain people coming to mind but it felt far too personal for a work thing. THEN I was surprised to find that I am totally one of those cliche people that is inspired by... the one and only 'mom'. Everyone but 2 in the course shared their inspirational person stories. It was an invigorating moment. Very emotional. I was too choked up to share mine. So it has been a couple of weeks but I have decided to really do some thinking about this. I journaled about it tonight... but will share the short/ less personal version here. And this is what I came up with. Inspirational People, to name a few MOM; To work hard, love relentlessly and to fight for those I care about DAD; To stand up for myself, dream big, to love interacting with people from all walks of life BRO; To not give a shit about what other people think of you SIS; To fight back even if it is obv I will lose the battle (stick up for self. And to be brave enough to be who you are, different GRAMMY G; To be content with life as it is CHELSEA F; That I am able to strive academically. And school will get me where I wanna go NATASHA; When it seems like the world is against me, I still have mom MITCH; To release creatively, is a beautiful thing CHELSEA L; To be who you are even when criticized by others, do what you love NICOLE C; To continually strive to being a better person. To offer others endless support and excitement for the day to day RICKII; Who is so strong and independent. Won't let others run over her. And to LAUGH DR. S.B.; Who is a professional female who is passionate about F. therapy and inspired my interest in the field THOSE I WORK WITH; Who face their lives as an adventure, full of wonder. Willingness to change DANIAL; -Importance of stability, true commitment to a partner, unlimited support and caring, was always trying to take care of me, looked out for me, always on my side even when I was wrong JEFF; -To fight a war alone with a stick being the only weapon offered. Even when met with continual agony, keeps fighting. Even when in continued pits of turmoil, has capacity to open his heat to love. So caring and passionate. True vulnerability= true beauty. To cause me to honestly critically reflect upon myself. And a whole lot more that I will not share on here :) Soo cheesy, but I so don't care. I am cheesy and totally sobbed for a long while when writing this list. I am so blessed to have crossed paths with these people and many more. You have been so instrumental in my life. xo ~J

Late-- but let's review the last year shall we?

1. What did you do in 2014 that you'd never done before? End a 11 year relationship Move to a town for work Trip to Cuba 2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year? No resolutions, no problem! 3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Don't remember.. aha no. 4. Did anyone close to you die? Not yet 5. What countries did you visit? Cuba! 6. What would you like to have in 2014 that you lacked in 2013. More honesty 7. What dates from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? Mar 2014 Apr 2014- trip to Cuba 8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? Dunno 9. What was your biggest failure? Overanalysis 10. Did you suffer illness or injury? no. 11. What was the best thing you bought? meh 12. Whose behaviour merited celebration? My amazing friends who were so there, amazing and available for when I was heartbroken. 13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed? No one got me to the point of feeling apalled. 14. Where did most of your money go? Paying back school debt 15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? Swimming at night. Floating and seeing the stars 16. What songs will always remind you of 2014? Nora's weirdo album 17. Compared to this time last year, are you: a) happier or sadder? Surprisingly, happier b) thinner or fatter? Thinner. c) richer or poorer? Richer. 18. What do you wish you'd done more of? Enjoying the moment. 19. What do you wish you'd done less of? Being stuck in my apartment 20. How will you be spending Christmas? Hopefully with fam in pei.. maybe a loved one? 21. Did you fall in love in 2014? :P 22. How many one-night stands? ZERO 23. What was your favourite TV program? Girls. SOA. 24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year? No hating 25.What was the best book you read? Bonaventure arrow 26. What was your greatest musical discovery? wierd norah j. 27. What did you want and get? independence 28. What did you want and not get? health, less stress 29. What was your favourite film of this year? i liked into the wild again 30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? Turned 28. Gals Rickii and Nicole took me out for a last min bday supper at Brewbakers 31.What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? Some clarity of mind 32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2014? Random, changed throughout the year. Baggy, bus professional, fitted dresses. many many sundreses. 33. What kept you sane? Mom, friends 34. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? none 35. What political issue stirred you the most? Addictions 36. Who did you miss? family, lovlie 37. Who was the best new person you met? I remet someone pretty cool. 38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011? The healthy choice is not typically the easy choice. 39. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year: "You remind me of a girl that I once knew. You wouldn't believe all the shit, she put, me through" m-m-mad mad mad

Idiot Compassion

"We need to distinguish true compassion from “idiot compassion”. We sometimes over-react emotionally at the sight of suffering. We can be so distressed that we weep uncontrollably, faint or run away in horror. Our heart may be moved with pity but our emotions are so out-of-control that we can’t do anything to help! In other cases we might do something but because we lack right understanding of the problem or the person experiencing it, our “help” only makes the situation worse. These are examples of idiot compassion. True compassion balances loving-concern with clear wisdom. This wisdom enables us to stay calm and think clearly how best to help, without being carried away by our emotions." (Ven Sangye Khadro from The Four Immeasurables)

I wonder what research may be out there about idiot compassion... from a clinician standpoint.